I can completely understand your predicament Jen, I have gone through the same thing with my wife. We have found that much of it in her case was due largely to the medications she was on. They let her sleep, but the medication hangover in the morning kept her either in bed, or in a near comatose state on the couch late into the day. She is able to get going for a few days when she really needs to, and then back into the same pattern. As she decreased her meds it got better, but I think that now she is increasing one it will likely go back to sleeping in....I'll be on the merry go round as well.