Thread: Does Anyone Struggle With Saying No?
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Old 13-10-2007, 11:48 PM
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KT,

I too for yrs would never say no, then would kick myself in the ass for saying yes. It takes time, patience, some self esteem, and learning how to be assertive without being threatening to the other person.

I did it with someone that I felt sort of safe with. This person asked me to do something for them, and I really didn't want to. I looked at the floor and sort of mumbled "no." He just laughed and said, "You know it's ok to tell someone no." It gets easier after the first time. I still find it hard to do, but I do it because I need to take care of ME!!!!!! That's what it basically comes down to...Them or me. Sorry if it sounds selfish, but most of the time....I win....

You will learn in time how to do this.....So hang in there.

Wen
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