Hi Kathy,
sorry it has been a while. I am going to give you the same response that Alex gives me wheneverI question mymothering skills. "Onlyagood mother worries about whether sheis good or bad!" I personally think itis in the job description to always worry about your abilities.

And as far as the forgetting dates is concerned... My Nana was one of my best friends, shepassed awayon the 24th August 2004and not once have I actually remembered on the date. I have had comments about how I am different and weird on that day, but I have never actually remembered until the next day. I think it is our way of coping in some sick twisted way. I am also well aware of the guilt felt by not remembering!!! I know your grief would be much worse as you lost a son and my thoughts are continually with you and your family. At least you have each other to talk to and lean on...
Tammy