at some point as your children get older they become something more then just "your children" they become your friend also. So in hard times they see you as a mother and look to you for support but also as a friend and wish to help and support you in a more adult mannor.. rather then child-parent it becomes more adult- adult and friend-friend. Just as we here understand the need to vent sometimes and release that pent up emotion eather in yelling or in tears.. part of a loving family is understanding that and not taking personal insult when someone is just upset. Don't add more heart ace and worry to your life right now by trying to be perfect and the strongest.. family is there to lean on in hard times and being a mother its hard to see your children as strong enough and adult enough to understand and be that suport for you.