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Originally Posted by piglet I guess what I'm trying to eventually say is that maybe we have developed a strategy of saving our anxieties until we feel safe to express them. I always tends to switch into "think mode" during a stressful occasion and switch off the feeling side of things. Perhaps when we are out of control we can't make use of this strategy. Maybe this is actually a good thing, otherwise we don't deal with the feelings at the time which is what got us into this mess in the first place! |
You just hit it on the head actually, and this is what I was trying to say last night, but couldn't produce, nor think of the right way of saying it. A defense mechanism could be it! As you said above, "saving our anxieties until we feel safe" pretty much hit it on the head. Thankyou very much.
This is something I actually control, I can switch myself on or off for feelings and emotions. I've been able to do it now for a long time, and learnt it from just being in the military, before even deploying on operations. I think this is part of the reason why I always promoted very quickly within the Army, apart from using commonsense, is that I left my feelings and emotions at the gate when going to work, got the job done, managed soldiers without bias, then picked them back up when leaving work again to go home for the night.
Maybe I do that when I go out!!!!