Ah. Yes I can see where the solicitor mentioning mind frames in such a manner might cause upset for Alex. At least, to use my Evie as an example, she would certainly take such comments seriously and possibly the wrong way. I could easily see her thinking the solicitor was either a) putting pressure on her to go back to work or, b) saying she could go back to work immediately if only she would think in a different way. Therefore she would conclude it is all her fault she is not working, she was a "loser", and she would be catastrophizing about the future, stressed and irritable as a result.

I am very serious when I say I believe you are doing a good job Tammy. It is very refreshing to see, as for whatever reason, so many carers do not do the necessary work to educate themselves and help their loved ones. Truly I wish you and Alex all the best!