Hi splost, Just an opinion, but one I believe worth listening to: The worst thing you could do is betray yourself in this and buckle under pressure. You do what you feel is right and no, it is Not At All selfish.

I'll tell you what is selfish though, and that is your parents trying to manipulate their own way by trying to persuade you into allowing what they want and persuade you into believing that it is you thinking selfishly in this.

I agree with you. It does take some sort of Crazy audacity to ask you if you're going to allow your abuser to hold your son.

I feel strongly about this and certainly do understand your anger and upset.

Splost, So again, you do what doesn't betray you, as you don't owe anyone anything.

Hope