The delayed emotional response is a problem, isn't it? In my case I think part of the problem is that I kept all my emotions in "the box in my brain" (my words) for so many years and didn't feel much at all. Near the beginning of therapy I was given list of feelings so I could learn to communicate what I felt. Now it takes some time to really identify exactly what I am feeling. Many times I wish the box was still in the brain, but now that the box has been open, I really don't want to close it. Having feelings, even hurt feelings, are preferable to no feelings at all.

Now I make an effort to communicate my feelings as quickly as possible. At times I have communicated way too fast and made a mess of things.

Annuika, I like your response of just saying "this doesn't feel right". It leaves the door open to communication instead of shutting the communication down. Thanks.

Blessings,

vst