I also went through a few therapists looking for a good fit, but I did finally find one. The major problem I had is that many of them expect the client to spill their guts in the first or second meeting. Since trust is a major part of my problem, that was not going to happen. It is perfectly reasonable to ask a therapist about their approach to a particular problem before you schedule an appointment.

Sad to admit it, but I engaged in some self-mutiliation in my teen years. I think it was a combination of anger turned inward and a feeling of being trapped. Once I moved away from my family (the source of my problem) I stopped cutting myself.

Keep searching. I hope you find the help you need!