Kells,

First welcome to the forum. Gee, I don't know that I envy you.........two of you with PTSD, I guess it would be easier to understand where they are coming from. Or in your case each of you but bloody hell! Your right it would be an interesting household.

I have quoted the last part of your post as it is one of my biggest fears also. In fact I made a post on this just recently in the spouse's part of the forum. Sometimes the line for those of us with partners who have PTSD is blurred as to what is normal marriage/relationship bs and what is attributed to PTSD. I guess it is the same thing with children. We have two between us and one due in November and I wonder often about the impact on them. I am certain I drive Anthony nuts (for want of a better term) sometimes with being what he considers 'over protective' with the toddler but I feel very strongly that he needs that buffer zone sometimes. Not often do I step in where Anthony's eldest son (teenager) is concerned but I have on occasions. Sometimes I can see the impact on both of them at different levels of the scale.

The positive from this though as Anthony has said, is that it drives both of us to sort out our own rubbish to try and make the family environment better. I am not sure I would have been so motivated if I didn't have Alexanders well being to consider. It has also helped me to learn fighting strategies in a way that counselling never could........I have learned to walk away, its taken me a long time but its a step in the right direction. I can often pick a mood in Anthony and will clearly tell him that I am not going to fight with him, especially not in front of the children and I walk away. You can't argue with that.