Nonie,

Others may have a different viewpoint, but I don't think whether you are bf/gf or h/w makes any difference. The fact that you are on this forum and encouraged him to get help says it all. You care and you are hurting.

I have struggled with the decision about when/if it is the right time to tell a partner. I was married for 10 years and lived with another man for 9 years, and never told either of them about my trauma. I loved both of them dearly and I did trust them, but . . . I remained silent for 34 years. Shame, guilt, and denial played a big part.

It is not your fault that he is unable to confide/trust. I have pushed away some of the people who cared about me most. Now that I have started to heal, I am trying to repair those relationships. Some are lost forever, and I accept responsibility for that.

Take care of yourself.
Red