I have had PTSD for most of my life, but undiagnosed until around 13 yrs ago. During that time I lived with a man that had PTSD but refused treatment. So I have been on both sides of the coin.

It's hard.......It's heartbreaking for the carer, and also very frustrating. They are pushed and pulled till you feel like a tennis ball going over the net. It's not a very nice place to be.

But... On the flip side...You could be the best carer in the world( I give them all tons of credit) BUT.......Live in our shoes for one week. Feel what we feel, live what we live, see what we see, hear what we hear, go through just one week and you would know the pain, the torture, the hurt, the anger, the frustration, and every other thing that we feel. Some days getting out of bed isn't even an option because it's just to hard to make the decision, or to take the energy.

We are accountable, or should be for our actions. Having PTSD isn't a ticket to be mean and not be accountable. It's just a question of getting to that point. Some of us don't, we can't for whatever reason. Some of us make it.

It isn't easy being a carer....But GD it's even harder having PTSD.....

Herc,

I will stick my neck out here and the other wolves can pick it clean...... My take on this is that .....You push people away because you are punishing yourself.(for whatever reason) You feel that you are not worthy to have friends or a fulfilling life. Just my take on it.