Hello, Kerrie Ann and thank you for the warm welcome =)
I can definitely say that I envy your relationship. My husband and I haven't gotten anywhere near the point that you described, unfortunately. Unless we're talkng about issues as serious as the weather, or the game that he and I enjoy playing, it is guaranteed to become an argument. So we completely avoid any 'real' discussions altogether. Our marriage literally hangs by a thread. The only thing I think that holds us together is the fact that we both need each other for one reason or another. He can't survive completely independantly due to his physical and mental ailments and I can't afford to support all of our 6 children alone financially for various reasons, some of which include this ptsd, which is absolutely frustrating. For some reason I thought that once I got out of the abusive situation as a child, that everything would be much better. And somehow, this seems worse than the abuse itself.