Thanks guys its good to see from a sufferers point of view at how hard it is to wake up yes he is on meds.
This has been going on for years and it wears a bit thin after a while I know I need to put up with it as it is obvious to me that he doesnt want help he has had PTSD clinics and counselling he has had so many offers of help and just doesnt seem to want this help?
Here I am typing this at 3.30pm on a Saturday and he is still in bed.
As for being stubborn about hiring help I think so to!
He has a real problem accepting help from people but this is me accepting help as well not just him!
I think over the Xmas break I will look in to getting someone as you said even if they just do the mornings.