Thanks guys I do appreciate getting an insight in to the sufferers point of view!
Do you think the reason he is being stubborn is a case of self esteem as well? If I get someone in to do the morning shift am I taking away that one reason that he needs to get out of bed that one day of the week?
Because what it boils down to is the only reason I need someone is because he cant get out of bed.

This may upset people but it is not my intention please understand that!

A lot of people in my life as in social life and work life do not know about PTSD as how it can affect families so if people ask where is hubby why isnt he helping you I say.
"Oh he is not well today" It does get embarrassing to try to explain to people even my friends that we cant do things together because he cant get out of bed? Thats why I need my one day a week away with friends as it gets lonely around here both kids have left home and its only the two of us!
Sorry that was a bit of a ramble!