I do agree Jen, I have found the older members of our family do not quite understand it either. We suspect Jim's father had PTSD, after serving in the Korean War. After coming home he could never work again and effectively drank himself to death. The older members of the family who are still living continue to view Joseph as a weak man and an embarrassment to the family. Jim's mother, up until her death, continued to refer to Joseph as "lazy" and "nutty in the head". It is unfortunate however it seems to be common in that generation. I believe perhaps because our parents, in North America at least, lived through The Great Depression, WW2 and all the sacrifices that it entailed, food rationing and so on, and it made them very strong and self-sufficient. So they don't understand when some are not so "strong". At least that is my take on it.