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Originally Posted by Nonie  In the end, what he ended up writing back was pretty short...He said "Anyway...just wanted to see if i could say hi, i'm going to sleep now...hope all is well with you and that you are well". Those were his exact words. |
There is your reason for him making contact. He wanted to see if he could say Hi and that you were well. That's it. That is his reason. You are trying to read way more into this than there is.Attempting to read more into this is just going to end up with hurting yourself. He gave you the reason. Accept it.
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Originally Posted by Nonie I'm not sure why he broke the no contact rule here, especially since he said he needed time and space himself...he also told me to take all the time i need, and then contact him when i'm ready. Clearly, i am not ready, yet he still took it upon himself to message me last night when he saw me online, and there have been days within the 12 days of no contact...that we were both online at the same time, and i completely stopped myself from contacting him, and so did he. Yet, last night he messaged me. |
Clearly you don't get it. Him not contacting you is about him, not you. He is the one with PTSD, right? You are the healthy one, not him. Does he mind read? How is he supposed to know that messaging you upsets you? You can block him. You can choose to not answer etc. Take some responsibility here.
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Originally Posted by Nonie Not sure what to think of this...i feel like he is messing with my emotions, because he clearly stated in his last e-mail to me that he doesn't want to talk about why he broke up with me, and he is sick and tired of it. So if that's the case, then why is he keeping in touch with me?? He knows i'm hurting so BAD over all of this, and he knows i care so much about him too. I also feel like he messaged me to let me know he got a job back stateside, and perhaps he wanted to see for himself if he still has a chance to reconcile with me when he comes home eventually?? I'm not sure,any insight at all, Kathy? Or anyone else perhaps? |
He is messing with your emotions. Again your just not getting this here. You need to read this thread:
PTSD is a Killer !!
As you can see, he is the one that is very ill. He is NOT doing this to you on purpose. He is NOT doing this to hurt you. Yes you hurt. Yes you feel bad. However, it does not compare to what this man is going through. Enough with the "I'm the victim" attitude. If you want to be involved with this man, give him space. If he contacts you, great. Don't start twisting it into it could mean this or it could mean that and he's doing this to hurt me. Your angry with no contact and your angry with contact. What makes you happy here?
You need to realize he is very sick. You are not. You are not playing on the same field and you need to take responsibility for your feelings and not put that on him.
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