Thanks Bec no things are about the same I did manage my day off he got out of bed at a reasonable hour on THAT day!
Still eating junk I am at work through the day he goes and buys pies and chips for lunch.
I must remember to start making lunch for him!
I know he is in bed until midday when I am at work.

Evie thank you for your wise words thats it with the older generation if there is an physical injury they understand why the person is not functioning but they really dont seem to want to know about any mental illness years ago things like that were brushed under the carpet?