Nonie... the simple end of the story is; your boyfriends overloaded. If you haven't read understanding PTSD, then maybe do so in order to understand what is going on within him, then place you within that mould and see exactly how you nor anyone else could fit if a relationship is required. You will find he is most relaxed when on operations, compared to being home. Why? Because he now needs that level of stress around him to feel good, instead of stressed. He has purpose in that environment, he knows he has a certain amount of control over his surroundings, as he knows he has no control over himself, yet will not admit that to himself nor another.

The beginning and the actions are the same time and time again....