Thank you for mentioning that article again Anthony. It is stickied at the top page here, and it is stickied for a reason, as it is a most excellent article. The PTSD cup explanation especially is what helped me to understand PTSD in my loved ones. If you read nothing else on the forum, read that. I must emphasize once again to everyone, to read, read, read whatever you can, and as much as you can, upon this forum. We have a wealth of information on PTSD and knowledge is your ultimate defense, so arm yourself with it!

Nonie, I believe the point that everyone is trying to get across to you, regardless of circumstances, treatment, how you personally feel and what you have agreed to mutually and so on - it that your ex boyfriend has a very serious, incurable illness, and you do not. You are not on a level playing field, nor will you ever be, should you decide to have a long term relationship with him. Regardless if he gets treatment and heals he will still have this illness. My suggestion is, if contact with him bothers you, then perhaps you should consider completely severing the relationship. If you are having hurt feelings now, over him simply contacting you to ask how you're going, well, that is only the tip of the iceberg Nonie. Things will become far worse once he returns home from operations, regardless if he is in treatment or not. If you don't feel you can handle any of that, best to cut your losses and get out now. I do understand the hurt of a break up and that part of your feelings are simply that. However you are not broken up with a "typical" man. That cannot be stressed enough. Even if you love each other very much and reconcile, there are difficult times ahead, let me assure you.