Hi Nonie,

Hang in there.

Don't give up on him- but at the same time move forward with your life. Don't get stuck in his anguish or else you can't help him and his pain will consume you. I feel like that was what was happening to me.

I get where you're at- I'm new at this too. I'm sorry that you received strong responses to your plea for help. I understand how you are feeling. The person you love is falling apart and you can't do anything to help as well as being in a different continent.

I still haven't got a clue about what my guy is going through. I am still figuring it out. It gets more challenging when they shut down too.

I've copied a link below. This was the best book I read in terms of relationships with people with ptsd- it's on this site.

Learning about this has been the only way I have been able to get some peace and understanding.

Try to be patient with him. And don't beat yourself up because you are new to this. We are going to make many mistakes in this process. Especially at this stage of the healing when we are still trying to gain understanding of their pain and what it is we need to do to support.

Sincerely,

j