Have not been writing for quite some time, but have read as much as I could and learned a lot actually. I am still seperated from my partner, but we are in contact (phone, email), he is in intense therapy and not doing very well... I have over the past months learned that this is not about me, but about him and that he needs all the support he can get. I have also learned from him what has happened during the time he was in Iraq and I can only try to imagine what he has gone through and is going through at the moment. My problem at the moment is, that I do not really know how to support him, we talk and I listen but it is very hard for me to know if I should give advise. Sometimes he asks for it, soemtimes he simply tells me that I will never understand what he is going through. Does anyone have any advise on this? Thank you!