I think what you need to do, is actually send some legal threats your doctors way, in that your doctor is obviously breaching medical in confidence, which would have their license for that, because your mother is finding things out and conspiring with a doctor to achieve things. Totally against just about every countries laws, to say the least. I don't doubt your mentality or wits, but I am just pointing this out now incase you have missed it because of all your current concerns.

Bec, because you have these concerns already, I want you to really be careful when being handed medication in regard to PTSD and depression, because for the most part, just about every sufferer of PTSD has major issues with medications increasing suicidal thoughts and tendancies, increasing the depression itself, or reacting and increasing anxiety symptoms. Very very rarely do I have someone say they have not suffered an increase in one, if not all, of those areas because of medication. If you react to them then your mother might just get her wish.

I do understand though in regard to the EMDR, although before EMDR is performed, a general scrutiny must be done first, and any good specialist in EMDR will find, shareing or not, whether a person is or is not suitable for it. I won't say anymore about that... just my opinion.

Now this also intrigues me, in that has these therapists told you that matt's PTSD can be cured and yours not? Taking into account the two different therapists! PTSD, regardless, has no cure as of yet. If a therapist has diagnosed your son with PTSD, and says that he is curable, then I suspect they have misdiagnosed him, and possibly he could just be suffering GAD and depression.... which is very curable and fixable. Many therapists throw around PTSD like its a common label, when infact many misuse it, and don't use at other times when it is required, and this is generally because from lack of experience dealing with PTSD itself. Just read through posts here about the amount of people who have been misdiagnosed, and some labelled with PTSD that don't have it at all, because they couldn't even meet the mandatory critieria for assessment.

I hope that matt doesn't have it if this is the case from his therapist feedback. PTSD is very very slim to obtain because of a parent or guardians PTSD itself... very rare indeed, and what makes me more curious, is that you found out matt suffered from an ex's beatings, which you discovered then had immediate counselling and ongoing, because of this. I am hoping from the information you have written here, than he may off just escaped the actual debilitating factor of PTSD itself, and the therapist might off over jumped the mark a little... Fingers crossed.

So then bec... why exactly is your mother trying to do these things to you then? I am assuming your mother has a lot to do with your childhood and ongoing trauma?