I think it's just a case of not enough hours in the day to do everything.

I know that if hubby is having a bad day he can get overwhelmed just looking at the dishes. He doesn't really like clutter but as our place is small we have no choice.
Its a cycle, too much clutter, cup overflows, stresses out too much because he doesn't know where to start in the house. Anxiety levels raised, causing him to feel tired & no energy. Feels guilty for not doing anything, stress rises again. Then we do the dance again!

Just the pattern I've noticed in my humble abode!

Then we come home from work, look around & think stuff it I'm buggered, I'll do it later.