I think this is such a typical male thing, at least around here. I keep dreaming once all the kids are out it won't be such a pit. I hate clutter as it just stresses me out and I will get ticked and say screw it for a few days. I finally figured out I can't out gross anyone and I just have that much bigger a mess to clean later.

My son is OK mess wise and he will help but prefers if I leave the house so he can do it. I guess I have a bad habit of telling him how to do it. Then I will follow up with things men here seem blind to, like move things to clean, dust, scrub (I think they think a magical fairy scrubs the toilet). But it is nice when he gets they main crap picked up and clears the way for me to do it. That is what allowance is for anyway.

I know I will never have a tidy home as my hubs is just as messy as the kids. But if that is one of my only complaints on him I will take it! He leaves trails of clothes and seems to undress where ever he feel like and the clothes stay right in that spot if he is not making a trail... He has said it does seem clean to him and he just does not see the mess I do and acts surprised things do sparkle.