I use to be an organize everything nut when I had my first child... and I would get upset and stressed when things didn't get put back in the places "I" thought they where supose to be in. I figgured out that my being so orginized would frustrate myself and my daughter because she would be unsure where things should go and would feel like she was going to get in trouble if they didn't go in the places I thought they should. I had to sort of let go the idea the toys and stuff had special places they had to be put away in and just let her put her stuff where she wanted to get her to pick up. It helped lower the stress of a messy house and give her the satisfaction that she was more in control of her own things and wouldn't get in trouble if they didn't go back the exact way I thougth they should. LOL I don't know if its the same way when dealing with men or even ourselves.. but its an idea I thought I would mention!