Thanks Adam. I'm afraid it's my written word (email) that has done some damage. I guess words can be written quite flippantly over the email.It is a nice idea to write a well thought out letter as we're both in different countries right now. But, for now, I guess my main concern is when I see him in 3 weeks time. I'm going home for Christmas break. I just wanted to know how to communicate when I see him if things start taking a slide for the worse- which seems to be what happens lately.I just don't want to keep messing it up and pushing him away further each time because I inadvertently say the wrong thing. I wish he would just cut me some slack sometimes because all of this is so new and I can't be expected to understand what he's going through.