Kathy, it's been a while since i posted on the forum, and i did see your first post in your thread about your daughter. I truly hope things are going okay, and that things will get better for your family. You've been through so much, and you're a wonderful example of a person who is strong and patient enough to understand everything that comes along with ptsd. I admire that. Thank you for sharing all that you do, because it really is appreciated.

I am absolutely not offended by what you've said in this thread. It's actually a good wake up call. Just a quick update on my situation. After that day he broke contact on the 12th day..i waited a while and contaced him on the 21st day of no contact from my end. I kept the conversation very light and talked about general things and kept the conversation very happy and of good nature. The conversation went well.

The day after that i messaged him again...and it was another good conversation, and he spoke a lot more to me this time around. He shared things about his family and what's going on with each person, etc...he also told me his plans when he returns, and what his next step would be when he comes home, etc.

The 3rd day was last night, and i messaged him again. He wasn't bothered by it at all, and was having a great conversation with me. He was talking about his work, his concerns, etc. He also mentioned he got the impression that i didn't want to talk to him on the day he broke no contact with me (12th day), which is why he never messaged me again. I didn't lie to him, i told him that i was a little taken back by it, which is why i waited about a week until i broke the no contact from my side. He told me he still wants to see me when he comes home, and still wants to call me when he gets home too, but he was worried that i wouldn't want that...and he was glad that i brought it up, because it settled him, and made him feel a lot better.

I also asked him how he is doing personally, reffering to the "things" he talked to me about, in the past (ptsd related symptoms he was displaying), and he told me he wanted to see someone on base, but was embarrassed to go, and felt very weak about it. I recommended that he search for some forums/websites where vets or others who have ptsd, post. I told him it would be very beneficial to him, and it can help ease some of the tension he is feeling by talking to anonymous people who have the same issues. He thanked me and said he will search for some.

I told him i really do care about him, and i wanted him to seek some type of help, especially if right now he is too scared to go to a doctor about it. And him telling me that he will search for forums and start posting, made me feel a lot better. I had told him that there are many vets who post on ptsd forums with the same exact things he is going through, and he would find comfort in posting there, because all of these vets help one another, and they feel just like him....just like all the other people who suffer from ptsd. He appreciated it, and that made me feel good!

I'm taking it a day at a time, and i'm very relaxed about the situation. Thankyou for helping me through this, and all the others that posted in the thread.