Thank you Kathy and Sapper for your encouraging words. I am still hanging in there, we have had a little setback again, he is back to needing more space...He wanted to see me for Thanksgiving, on very short notice and as I live in Europe I just could not make it to the US. So now the "guilt-thing" is on for me again. I am not sure how to deal with that at the moment, on the one hand being there for him on the phone and by email, but then thinking when he really needs me I can not. Any advice on this? Thank you!