My stress, has a major impact on my wife who has complex PTSD. We work together too, which makes it even more difficult. We sit in meetings together and she sees whats bothering me. I come home and sometimes my mind is still going, and again, her sensitive part sees that and reacts. And like Anthony said, there is a frame , like a 1-2 week frame with a certain volume of stress, which she can cope with. But that frame sometimes is smaller, sometimes is larger. Very hard for me to predict. And once it spills over.... well you know. It takes a while to get life back into that frame of coping and safety. Sometimes it takes very long.

I need to learn to monitor my stress better. I am an outward processor, I need to talk, I like to talk about, which helps me to decrease the stress. But my wife is only to a certain point the right person for that. That's hard for me. Cause I want her to hear me, to learn about me, to know me. For me, that is my love language: listening to me.
But if that causes too much stress for her... I am trapped.

Harry