I was told by FRA that if mediation attempts fail and both parents are willing to have the children the courts here will automatically rule that each parent has the child half of the time. I am not sure if this is true or they told me this so I would complete the mediation, however in Anthony's case, I do hope this is true. Apparently the family courts here are sic of hearing about each parties downfalls as parents, so they have decided to that the half/ half approach is better for the children. And not only that, but once this case does go through the court, it is a 'parenting order' meaning that each party is responsible for following it at all times; if this does not occur, that parent will be punished by the courts. At present I only have a 'parenting plan', which means that it is a mutual agreement however it cannot be enforced by the law. It can be mentioned in court, but it cannot persuade the judge at all. If I wanted it to be made into a 'parenting order' I can send it with some forms to the courts to get their seal of approval.
It is a very unfortunate situation that Anthony is finding himself in, however I fell more sorry for the children involoved! Children have a right to know both parents equally and the residential parent should realise that and stop being so selfish.
Hope all goes well for you and your boys Anthony.
Tammy