Hello Superd!
and welcome to the forum. Im glad you let some of it out!! im sure theres plenty more...so vent anytime. The people on this forum are amazing caring people and they will help you in one way or another. I myself am somewhat new here and i have learned so much already. I undertsand what you are going through trying to be there for your wife and trying to do what is best for her. My husband has PTSD and we have been married for almost 4years now and our marriage has not been good at all (problems left and right) but we do love each other and thats why we will stay together. Lately i am to the point where i cannot stand my husband because he does not see anything! he does not know whats going on, or what he says or does!! its always "i dont know" and its so frustrating to me but i also undertsand now that he is confused and has never been through anything like this. I will let our friends here give you good advise... like i said i am still learning so i am not at that point yet...but i just wanted to say welcome. and if you ever need someone to vent to, i am here..i understand how hard it is when you want to help so bad but you cannot because they have to help themselves.