OK, I hope being a person with PTSD I can add my 2 cents. I think it is nice everyone is trying to be nice and supportive. Now can we just get blunt? Having PTSD does not mean you cannot think for yourself and lose the ability to make a choice about relationships. This is with PTSD. What you describe is not PTSD. It is stress. You mention him having anxiety about going to Iraq. Who would not have anxiety and some symptoms of stress if they are even half way in their right mind? I mean this is human, not an illness! He may be the majority who is not made permanently ill.

Now that said... You really sound from what you describe yourself as is pestering the heck out of him. Really, think about it. I mean being in love is great, but the guy is in Iraq. He has bigger fish to fry right now. I would say he is being a butt head but he is not home, he is in a war zone!

Some guys are a pain. Lots of men and women change their minds. They avoid the ex. The ex does not get a clue. If he said that "if he gets distant and does this to hang on"... I do not see a sick guy. I see a typical guy. I do not want you but I do not want anyone to have you either! This is a common game many non PTSD people do. I won't say mentally healthy as many people who do not have this are still not in a good spot in their own head.

What I see is low self esteem on your side and him being a typical guy on one hand and on the other a normal human at war time who really does not need a clingy person. He has to worry about himself right now. And he should, he deserves that if that is what he needs as he is doing a helluva hard job right now. I just do not see PTSD anywhere in what you describe, just normal reactions. Sorry, but I did not see anyone being as blunt about it as I thought they should be.

While people think us with this are not there mentally, we are not beyond thinking for ourself and making choices, if he even has this, which I do not see you describing at all honestly.