I appreciate all the advice, harsh and not. To defend him, he wasnt saying like I dont want anyone else to have you so stick by me. He was with me after having severe anxieties not just stress but severe break downs, that he wanted to make sure I knew that last time he was there it changed him, which his family had said as well and that if he ever showed the same sympotms, withdrawing, becoming depressed and getting cold emotionally ect to stick by him for when he gets home he will get help and come back like he did last time. I am aware he can make a decision an someone can change their minds but this was not something like, yah I just dont know anymore. it was like I love you and I want to be together forever and then a sudden cut. I sent him the christmas stuff to make sure he knows I love him, as I had spoken to 2 of my friends who returned from Iraq and both had said I need to be there for him because if he has anxieties and is depressed then I dont want to leave him alone in his depression and for him to ever start coming out and think everyone left him. I am going to try to not write him as much and see but we have been close friends since were young and its not just me. His best guy friends have written him and tried to talk to him an dhe hasn't written them back either. He only has spoken to his mom but very quickly and she said he was different and was short. I am not trying to pester him. I only want to help him because rt before this happened he had told me that it helps him through to get my packages and my comments and such. Some say give him space and other troops have said dont leave him alone because of his mental state. I have seen him in "anxiety breakdown" and it was def not just stress but like he was not here. He needs help and I feel helpless and I only doing the best I can. Thank you for the advice.