Honestly Myaleah, I do not see anyone putting him down here, there is no need to defend him. All people have said is that they are uncertain he has PTSD or not. That is valid, considering he has not yet been diagnosed. Additionally, not all service men who have anxiety whilst deployed develop full blown PTSD. Some develop combat stress, which mimics PTSD in some respects but is not a permanent condition. I have had family members with combat stress, they recover after a few weeks of being home generally.

The point is Myaleah, not what others are saying, but what he is saying. He has asked you for space. Regardless of his reasons, regardless if he has an illness or not, this is not the way to start a longterm relationship with someone. Respect his boundaries.