Your explanation of this helps, Jim, as I'd wondered from time to time what you meant by that! I also came from a military family with an attitude of 'suck it up,' so when I don't suck it up, I tend to get even harder on myself. Your solution sounds reasonable, and though I don't have family to do that for me, I think folks here on the forum are able to give me a kick in the arse when I need it from time to time.