I didnt read the one above the last one. I am not totally naive just scared. I am telling you what I have heard from both you all and from people I know who have been there. And in correction as well, I have been doing so (giving him space). I havent written him in a couple days after hearing these comments and am trying to hold off for a while and praying to God he will be ok. Oh and when I said I was defending him I was referring to the comments where the guy was saying that my bf saying he wants me t stick by him if he changed because he would come back around is him saying I dont want you but I dont want anyone else having you. I defended that because I have known him since we were young and he is NOT that kind of man. He is very loving and sincere and considerate and thats why this is so baffling to me and his family, the way he is being. But God bless all those over there. I can only imagine what they are going through.