Hi Superd,
hmm... It makes sense... i think..haha... sorry i am being a bit slow. But like in my situation, or from what i thought at first, it seemed that my husband did not want to stop, sit down, and think about what he was doing and how he was acting..the things he was saying.. he did not notice anything! but now that i am learning more and more about PTS i notice that they aren't always aware of what they are doing or even saying so that just makes matters worse in my case i guess....What i do now is let him know every time he says something mean to me (i ask him if he realizes what he just said) when we are talking and he starts yelling, i ask him if he is angry and would like to continue "talking" later...stuff like that. I feel he is starting to see what he does or says because i point them out and i feel it has helped us a bit. Me, to understand that he does not always notice what is going on...and it lets him see the way he is treating me and the situation (the way he is acting) ahh i hope i make some kind of sense...sometimes i feel as if i talk my own language lol