Hope you have the stomach for it!! Just make sure you don't live there while you do it...learned that lesson the hard way. The fact that you love your husband is shown time and time agin in the posts that you make...I've read them along with the others. And you are right, I think it is up to the individual as to when they've come to the end of their rope! I guess for me, I have to wonder sometimes if love by itself is enough...for now it is. Later, ???