Hi Superd,

Welcome to the forum and glad to have you here. Do you see a common denominator here, in that every time your wife has an appointment coming up, she gets sick? She gets a headache and misses her appointment? This is caused by her anxiety of having to attend her appointment and face her fears. This is a symptomatic way that her anxiety is telling her to be fearful, because her anxiety wants to remain in control, and not allow her to get control of it. You are right, her therapist is right, she needs to attend the appointments regardless. You can read here in most threads relating to sufferers attending appointments, and every one will be anxious having to do so, feel physically sick, etc etc... hell, I used to get the same thing, but it is just anxiety. Anxiety manifests in different ways to each individual.... your wifes being headaches.

Explain this to you wife if need be, and she must see the importance of attending the appointments. Hell... get your wife on here to chat with other sufferers, because they will help her to begin attending appointments more regularly. I doubt there isn't a sufferer here already that doesn't have a direct correlation to your wifes trauma, ie. rape, abuse, childhood abuse, accident, injury, workplace, etc etc... a very broad spectrum of people already exist here, and every one helping themselves and each other in the process.