Hi there,
I would like to thank you all for your replies, I have gained a lot of strength reading peoples stories and knowing that I'm not alone. There is an organisation in the UK called combat stress, but its getting B to make that first step of contacting them as he genuinely don't believe they can help hime. Out wardly he is not as bad as some people, but about 4 times a year, usually happy occasions such a birthday when he will flip out and be really nasty, saying hurtfulll things that afterwards he regrets. But he is irratable a lot of the time (the booze doesn't help). He knows that it is not good for George (our boy) to see.
One thing Ive learnt from the forum is not to get fired up my self when he flips, but it is difficult as I get angry back thinking how dare you talk to me like that. So I just have to bite my tongue remove myself physically. Well I have to get on and do some work
Cheers