I am a vet and can relate to some of that myself Not on a equal level lesser but still some. I have no clue what to say. I divorced. life got better for me. I thought I was the problem . I found out It want not all me , I remarried and was happy again. 7 years with a good women. It was very hard for me to leave my 1st wife. She had issues I did not understand or some I don't know about. we still talk at times but e mail only. She is still not happy. What does this all mean? I still don't know. I say do what is best for me. I did not have kids then. If I had them I would have done anything to keep the marriage together.