2Quilt, I am not even thinkong of freedom to go whereever or to spend all money to myself. I just know that, if I will become a parent, I will copy my father's behavior, which beyond negative for kids. I am a good Auntie for many boys and girls (hubby has 12 siblings!), and enjoy buying them gifts and playing with them. But I am not responsible for their behavior, as their parents are. I can love them even if they are not exactly as I want them to be. So, child-free is definetely not a bad option for a potentially abusive parent. The only thing bothering me is that my bloodline will be discontinued :(