Bella, there is a huge difference between seeking support and answers on Secondary Trauma and using it to relate or as an excuse with a PTSD sufferer.

Last time I checked, you haven't come here and said... well I have secondary.. and I know just what it's like.. how dare he/she need a break or have symptoms.. I have to deal with this.. I need help not them.

And no I'm not kidding.. we have had many "carers" come here and state that in PTSD sections and the Carer section.

You, on the other hand, are seeking answers from sufferers to help you learn about your sufferer. Your seeking answers and support from the carers for both yourself and him. You answer honestly. You don't blow off answers. You don't sit on the pity pot going poor me look how he's acting.

There is a huge difference there, you see? Us sufferers, are rather smart, and we do pick up on the differences. ;)

bec