I'm not even supposed to be up but I am not sleeping so I will just say, that is SO AWFUL what his family has done. I sooo could not handle that. I feel really bad for your husband. :(

I don't really know what to advise but could you maybe just email to say sorry about what happened with his family? That's a really non-intrusive form of contact which I personally don't mind much. I can choose to answer when and if I want. Who knows, he might feel bad about going off on you earlier (I do when I've done it to my family). Sorry that's all I have to say really. Just I feel for him, I can't stand being yelled at nor pressured into acting a certain way. Good luck.