Thanks Nicollete and Evie, I hope you are feeling a bit better. Be sure to rest plenty for the trip though..

Yep, it sure is pretty bad. I imagine he may be feeling very damaged. All I want to do is go see him and give him a cuddle. I want to say "Lets just take off for Christmas break to a nice little cottage in the country - to hell with everyone else! And work!" A tiny bit of me thinks he could go for that, but I am not sure it's worth the risk of him going "Don't be stupid woman, do you realise how much work I have to get done here!?"

It would be great to get him to relax for a few days and there is no way he will do that as long as he is close to work. Then if he were relaxed and feeling a bit better I may be able to talk to him about all this info I now have on PTSD. Set up a plan so to speak. really easy brief version that is... I dunno.
It all sounds good, but there is one minor detail, he wants nothing to do with me right now...

Thanks girls. Evie, he isn't regularly on email, but I can send him a text message on his mobile (cell) phone. I might do that. he will probably call me a hypocrite if i say sorry for what they did. Cos as far as he can see, I did it too by calling the Dr. Maybe worth a shot though.