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Originally Posted by Bella78  Anybody got a house at Capel, Moore River, anything quite close like that, anyone?....  |
Well Bella you could certainly housesit for us, we will be gone 2 weeks. We have a lovely view by the sea, though it is not very warm in Newfoundland this time of year. And of course there is the small matter of us living literally on the other side of the world!
Very well done on the summary Bella. Whether or not his family accepts it, you have done your part and I must congratulate you on being so proactive. Would you be willing to share the summary with me? I am always looking for new articles for the carers information section. Unfortunately there will always be some family members who do not understand; we have them in our family as well. We cannot always protect Evie from them, however we are there for her and hope that counterbalances matters. We certainly do limit contact with the more "toxic" members of the family as much as possible.
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Originally Posted by Bella She is a trauma specialist and says that I seem to have a good handle on how to care for someone with PTSD effectively. She said that 9 out of 10 carers get it all wrong and never really get it to "click" That shocked me. So few people... |
Unfortunately Bella that does not shock me in the slightest. Your therapist is quite right. What she says is true across the board, regardless of the illness involved - schizophrenia, depression or what have you. When I was still a practicing therapist, it was most uncommon to have understanding and supportive family members. The 9 out of 10 figure sounds about accurate. Many family are ungenerous, fear change of any kind, and/or are unwilling to make the necessary efforts and allowances. Now you comprehend Bella why I am so impressed with you. It is frustrating dealing with many carers and you are a nice breath of fresh air.
If you are able to go away and he agrees, that would be marvelous Bella. If that unluckily falls through though, and you must see them, perhaps only see the family on one day during the holiday, and perhaps only for a couple of hours at the most. I am uncertain the traditions in Australia, however in Newfoundland we still celebrate the old-fashioned 12 days of Christmas, and often see family on every single day. There is an attitude that family must be together on Christmas Day, Boxing Day, New Years and so on, even if one does not get along. However as I'm certain you are aware, it is absolutely not necessary. It can be quite overwhelming if certain members of the family are less than kind.
Fingers crossed you find a place to stay Bella, and have a wonderful holiday regardless, you both deserve it!