OMG Tammy! I love that analogy. I am going to use that too. Thanks!

Nie, I agree 100% with Tammy. This forum had taught me more as a carer than anything else I could have hoped for. In less than 3 days it "clicked" for me.

I gotta say though, you must be a fairly easy going (or well healed so far) PTSD sufferer to be able to turn the tables such that you end up being the voice of reason at a point like this. You stand of good chance of him being able to get a grasp on your condition if you are stable and approachable enough for him to say something like you think you've got "a free ride" and you not react quite extremely, withdraw etc. Tell him to consider himself lucky. (and no offence of course, it's a compliment)

Maybe remind him that you would swap all the "free rides" in the world for all you feel in your head and your heart from your PTSD and your trauma (not that I know what your story is, but it doesn't matter). That may help him see too.

But yeh! Get him on here, we'll look after him!