Shane, I beg to differ with your self reflection upon your past. If everything was just ok as you seem to believe, then these problems would not be present within you now. Your in denial if you ask me, and you need to face the facts that the past is still haunting you, regardless how much you seem to think its not. There is pain in your past, there is negativity from your past that is causing you your current conflict. You actually admitted to some of it, being that you have come to your own conclusions surrounding your father; yet you have not your uncle. Who ever said you had too though? There is no reason to forgive an abuser, it is a personal choice for each individual. If you cannot forgive him, then you must accept that, as nobody should be telling you to forgive him. More the point is that you must believe within yourself what your saying. If you hate him, then hate comes with feelings and it is these feelings you must identify and accept as your brain cannot just accept hate by itself. You must believe your own feelings, because at present you do not and are in denial of this.