Welcome to the forum Bryan, lovely to have you. I am the mother of two PTSD sufferers, one living, one deceased, so a slightly different situation than yourself. However, I must say, I do understand completely the frustration you experience when your wife lashes out. My husband and I recently had some incidents with our daughter (who lives with us) where she was most nasty for little or no reason. It was difficult for the both of us not to lose our tempers with her. Thankfully we have good communication and things have settled down once more.

You may already know this Bryan, however in case you don't... you are never under obligation to "put up with" PTSD related behaviours. Yes our loved ones are ill and they require our love and support, however that does not give them the right to be abusive to us. You are entitled to look after yourself and enforce your own boundaries. My husband and I let many things slide, we pick our battles so to speak. However there are certain behaviours which we will not tolerate. Communication is most important, and if you wife does something which truly crosses the line for you, I would let her know that, in a calm fashion of course. Part of healing from PTSD is learning to take responsibility for one's actions. Is your wife currently in therapy?

Once again welcome and please feel free to share, ask questions, and vent as much as you desire. I look forward to chatting with you more.